So, you did something stupid. You had unprotected sex because you were “bored.” This, I do not agree with. Although you and Bleeker fell in love toward the end of your pregnancy, I don’t believe love was present when you two had sex. To me, love is something that absolutely CANNOT be absent during sex - next to contraceptives, of course. Despite your relationship now, I believe it was detrimental both to you and Bleeker to have sex without being in love. The LARGE majority of not even just teens, but partners in general today, have sex just because. For fun, because they were bored like you, to experiment, for money, to take advantage. ALL THE WRONG REASONS. A key aspect that MUST be there in a sexual relationship is love. Otherwise, it’s simply meaningless.
Contrarily, I do respect your decision to put your baby into the loving arms of an adoptive mother. Vanessa, unlike you, was beyond ready (and excited!) to be a mother. Although irresponsibility brought you into this predicament, your responsibility shone through this excessively difficult decision.
I suppose I can somewhat understand your brief consideration of abortion, in a state of immense fear and absolute shock. I am BEYOND grateful and relieved that you quickly realized that is NOT the right choice. There are many mothers, ranging widely in age, who do not realize that their babies have fingernails. Yes, BABIES, not fetuses. They don’t realize that there is a HUMAN developing inside their very bodies - regardless of how many cells they do or don’t have yet. As for myself, in your situation, the thought of abortion would never even cross my mind as a possibility. I have a form of personal connection to this opinion, as I would have an older brother or sister if my mother hadn’t gotten an abortion. Who knows.. that could have been me. Regardless, in your situation, the only option for me would be to keep, and raise him or her. That baby would be a gift from God, although maybe first appearing as a blessing in disguise.
While you showed fluctuating maturity throughout your pregnancy, I personally believe (and think you’ll agree with me) that you are not mature enough to care for a baby on your own, or even with help. You realized this, and therefore made a wise decision - one that will brighten someone’s life forever. Your decision was a difficult, courageous one that does undoubtedly reflect a level of maturity. I hope your and Bleeker’s relationship only strengthens from here on out, and, if/when the time comes and you are ready again, that you two are blessed with a child created out of LOVE -- who I know you will care for with your whole heart.
So, you did something stupid. You had unprotected sex because you were “bored.” This, I do not agree with. Although you and Bleeker fell in love toward the end of your pregnancy, I don’t believe love was present when you two had sex. To me, love is something that absolutely CANNOT be absent during sex - next to contraceptives, of course. Despite your relationship now, I believe it was detrimental both to you and Bleeker to have sex without being in love. The LARGE majority of not even just teens, but partners in general today, have sex just because. For fun, because they were bored like you, to experiment, for money, to take advantage. ALL THE WRONG REASONS. A key aspect that MUST be there in a sexual relationship is love. Otherwise, it’s simply meaningless.
Contrarily, I do respect your decision to put your baby into the loving arms of an adoptive mother. Vanessa, unlike you, was beyond ready (and excited!) to be a mother. Although irresponsibility brought you into this predicament, your responsibility shone through this excessively difficult decision.
I suppose I can somewhat understand your brief consideration of abortion, in a state of immense fear and absolute shock. I am BEYOND grateful and relieved that you quickly realized that is NOT the right choice. There are many mothers, ranging widely in age, who do not realize that their babies have fingernails. Yes, BABIES, not fetuses. They don’t realize that there is a HUMAN developing inside their very bodies - regardless of how many cells they do or don’t have yet. As for myself, in your situation, the thought of abortion would never even cross my mind as a possibility. I have a form of personal connection to this opinion, as I would have an older brother or sister if my mother hadn’t gotten an abortion. Who knows.. that could have been me. Regardless, in your situation, the only option for me would be to keep, and raise him or her. That baby would be a gift from God, although maybe first appearing as a blessing in disguise.
While you showed fluctuating maturity throughout your pregnancy, I personally believe (and think you’ll agree with me) that you are not mature enough to care for a baby on your own, or even with help. You realized this, and therefore made a wise decision - one that will brighten someone’s life forever. Your decision was a difficult, courageous one that does undoubtedly reflect a level of maturity. I hope your and Bleeker’s relationship only strengthens from here on out, and, if/when the time comes and you are ready again, that you two are blessed with a child created out of LOVE -- who I know you will care for with your whole heart.
Sincerely,
Hannah